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Sleep, the gift of the Gods.  I wake rested, with a window of opportunity– literally, as I can look out at the winter dawn from my writing corner. On my mind this morning– that I want the winter mares to have the benefit of the spring grass that will start pushing up in a month and a half or so.  Doug is afraid that they will fall into the ditch on the south pasture.  I believe in horse sense and I doubt that they would, if he turns them out before the grass is long so that they can check out the terrain.  It’s not a deep ditch…

But remember, Jen, you can’t make that man do anything, I remind myself, hoping that I’ll be able to sweet-talk him into it…

On my mind:  last night I toured a site run by an old friend from my Minnesota salad days who is now a literary agent in New York.  Two women I know pop up under the H’s of the books she’s handled.  One of the books suprised me:  I hadn’t realized an old friend, Phebe Hansen,  had brought out a collection of poetry, her first, at 75.  I was happy for her and my former mentor and friend Patricia Hampl, whose memoir The Blue Arabesque was handled by this agency: then I felt myself descend into a little self-pity.

Making the bed, I thought:  look.  While  you’ve been moping around for the last quarter of a century, dabbling in this and that, other people you knew kept writing and working hard.  Live with  your choices.

I hate it when I give myself a little tough love.  But it’s true:  people deserve the fruits of their labor.

In support of the indie publisher, I’d like to mention Red Dragonfly Press; of note, collections of poetry by Nancy and Joe Paddock, and Lyle Daggett, top notch writers.  I go way back with Nancy and Joe, to canoe trips on the Kettle River in Northern Minnesota, and the plethora of parties we threw for each other against the deprivations of Minnesota winters.

Red Dragonfly Press is in Red Wing.  Also hailing from Red Wing MN are the two women I went to Europe with– that trip being the subject of the memoir I am writing, that may or may not catch an agent’s attention: depends on how hard I try to make it good, and how hard I work to sell it.

My friends had and probably still have, a gorgeous family lodge on the Brule River in Northern Wisconsin.  We, meaning the unlikely gaggle of street and academic  writers who hung out together in those days,  used to party there on weekends, staying over in cedar-perfumed bedrooms, reading our work to each other in front of the fire– and drinking a lot of wine.

My friends took good care of me; I was in pretty bad shape for many of those years.  It’s hard to think about.  I wasn’t fully fledged when I moved to Minnesota in 1971 with a boyfriend who had a fellowship in Asian Studies at the University of Minnesota. And how did I get better, more whole, anyway.  Hard work, baby.  Lots of hard work on me.

To my credit, after our inevitable split, I moved into St. Paul and lived in a series of vintage apartments on Summit Avenue.  A mythical and beautiful place, tall and ancient trees, beautiful old mansions, so much history.  I used to write in the bar at the Commodore Hotel, where F. Scott Fitzgerald hung out at one time.  When I was there, the bartender who had known Fitzgerald and his wife was still there.  Somehow Ralph became my muse, forever polishing the dark counters and the mirrors that hung throughout, telling a story or two when you bought him a drink.

I came back to Colorado in ’78 and never left.  My heart and roots are here, and I am starting over in the here and now.  Yet, writing about our trip to Europe in 73 brings many things back and breathes life into them again.

Yesterday I was out at “the place” I often refer to, where my animals and companion dwell.  I was dusting and ran across lifelong friend Tom Wayman’s collection of poems, My Father’s Cup.  This is a beautiful, eloquent, open-hearted series of poems about loss and love, a great read.  Be prepared to cry. Tom is Canada’s leading poet; this collection was nominated for a Governor General’s award.

I also found an anthology of love poems he had edited, The Dominion of Love – An Anthology of Canadian Love Poems-, Harbour/Canada.  I was captivated by one poem and realized it was one of his:  The Kiss and the Cry.

Suddenly, I realized that in reading his work and via his reading and encouragement of mine over the years, we remain deeply connected to one another.  It occured to me that it is art that connects all of us in ways that other things do not and cannot.  I found myself in tears, whereupon my Golden Retriever Tess came over to me, in her way of putting her head on my knee and looking up into my eyes.  I needed a good cry.

Then I wrote a poem, on one of the pages at the back of the anthology:

The Ruins We Live In


I should check in somewhere

get some help with grief

but why, this house

has always been filling with salt water.


It has always been dusk here

this silence of doomed love,

dangerous dreams, wide-mouthed,

devouring the heart.


Piece by piece, the place

has consumed us.

Feral cats lust in the window sills

We both let the small rose

in the broken pot

with one green stem



Well then, that’s a period

at the end of a sentence, at the end

of a story.


You are handsome

in your aphasia and ruin–

I am as beautiful as Lucia

at Covent Garden,

center stage in a torn peignoir.


(copyright 2010 Jenne’ Andrews)

Tom’s poem is about a cresting fear that a lover will leave even as they have just made love and are lying on the grass, looking up at the trees.  The sorrows and fears of his poem spoke to mine. If you aren’t familiar with the opera Lucia di Lammermoor, wiki it…

Didn’t I just said I’m all about turning the page?  Ah, well.

Sometimes the poems written through a veil of tears should just be put away.  Perhaps I should have done that with this one–,

But perhaps not.  Collective grief, knowing through reading each other that the human condition is a shared bewildering situation, is easier to bear.